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Well, I know this may be a weird topic to start; but I'm extremely worried about a very close friend of mine. I've been told he is doing drugs, and I want to comfront him about it..But, is there signs that exhibit proof that they are doing said drugs? I'm so scared about this..


Also, I guess this thread would be pointless if I didn't say that you should go and rant or vent about what you think about Drinking; and Drugs...

The only real way to approach a friend you are suspecting of drug use. That's to just up and confront them. Because if they are using drugs, especially drugs that seriously mess with their head will cause them to take things one way or the other when they find out you've been asking others about their life. Either they will try to get you to start, or they will get angry and think you are sneaking around behind their back. On the second road, they will most likely pull the "if you were a real friend" card. I'm speaking from experience.

I've had my share of drugs and drinking in my life (all seventeen years.), not my use most of the time, but friends. I've drank a few times, I've used marijuana twice, and I've had friends that almost died a few times because of either one. Back when things of this sort had made me concerned to no end, I've made a lot of mistakes in approaching this same scenario. lost friends, good friends, to death or drugs, kinda the same I guess.

I'm not going to be one of the dudes that advocate weed and beer, and say that all the other drugs is the stuff that will kill you. Cuz all drugs run that risk. Experimenting is human nature, but if this has become an addiction case, you should get on this quick. If your friend really is using drugs, I would like to say that it's just a phase, but there's no way to tell. But anything life threatening is always good to catch early. Just talk to him/her about it, just come out and say it... "Are you using drugs?"

It could save a life.

Yeah, I'm with Shinta on this one. Beating around the bush on a topic like this won't do anyone any good at all. I won't like, I've drank a few times and I've done marijuana a few times too, but never to an extent where it could be called an addiction. You should try to nip it in the bud before it gets even worse.

I'm hoping you've already said/done something since this was posted, Onyx, but you did open the topic up for discussion and there is one particular thing nobody else has touched on.

It depends on the drug, the person, and how much they're using... but there are always signs when someone hops on the substance abuse bandwagon. Sometimes the changes are so gradual that people don't notice until the shit hits the fan, and then said person is in so deep that it will take an act of God to get them out again.

Sometimes their sleeping habits will change. I'm not talking about small changes, either. It's noticeable. They literally can't get out of bed... Or they can't go to sleep in the first place.

Some people get quiet, withdrawn... they can act down or depressed.

Or they're like the Energizer Bunny on speed, going 90 MPH nonstop. They can't sit still, even for a second.

Their attitudes can change. They'll get edgy. Twitchy. Bitchy. Snap at people for little things, or nothing at all. Paranoid. Secretive. Moody.

Some lose their ability to use good judgment, and don't think before they do things.

They're more likely to get in trouble with the cops, flunk out of school, start sleeping around, or get into a car accident.

There's plenty of other warning signs, but that's a good basic start on things to look out for. (And that doesn't just apply to drug or alcohol abuse either. A lot of that can go for physical abuse, depression, etc. It shows that something is not right.)

You honestly have to pay attention ALL THE TIME. Drugs are too easy to get ahold of and to abuse. Better to be suspicious and WRONG sometimes than to wait until a friend or a family member is in huge trouble, and then look back and say "Oh my god, it was under my nose the whole time and I just didn't want to see it." The warning signs are always loud and clear AFTER a disaster happens.